Trauma Recovery Coaching & Expressive Arts Educator
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Recovering from all of life's hurts and trauma's require renewing of the mind. Renewing of the mind occurs through education (understanding what happened to you), and application of that education to our lives. The Bible exhorts us to renew our minds (Romans 12:2), the application of this can be difficult. Renewing our minds is half the battle, as we have to heal our souls and learn to trust ourselves again, this happens through a process of healing. Scripture is clear on the emotional healing we can receive through Jesus (Yeshua) (Psalm 147:3, Isaiah 61). There are "companion aids" to assist us in the understanding and application of these Scriptures. Dr Caroline Leaf's work on Neuroscience and renewing the mind is one resource, Shannon Thomas' book, 'Healing form Hidden Abuse' is another. To date, 'Healing from Hidden Abuse' is the best resource I have found to provide sound education of the cycle of narcissistic abuse, integration of psychology, and practical application of Scripture to psychologically abusive relationships. Utilizing an eclectic approach, we will go through each of the six recovery stages: Despair, Education, Awakening, Boundaries, Restoration and Maintenance.
Note: If you purchase 'Healing from Hidden Abuse': A guided Personal Reflections journal is included in the back of the book to help the reader go deeper in their application of the six stages of recovery.
Spiritual Abuse Recovery
The realities of spiritual abuse are becoming more evident everyday. Spiritual abuse, like other traumas, are multifaceted. Perpetrators of spiritual abuse may be a pastor, leader within ministry, a member of your church or ministry organization, a mentor, parent, or a spouse. The greatest abuse is the psychological and soul damage spiritual abuse does to our view of God (YHWH) as a loving Father. We will work to heal those wounds, while re-learning who God (YHWH) is as Father, learning His character, and coming to see that the great mystery is that He was and is with us through it all. Spiritual Abuse Recovery aims to heal your relationship with your Father, while healing you heart, mind, and spirit.
Spiritual abuse is the misuse of a position of power, leadership, or influence to further the selfish interests of someone other than the individual who needs help. Sometimes abuse arises out of a doctrinal position. At other times it occurs because of legitimate personal needs of a leader that are being met by illegitimate means. Spiritually abusive religious systems are sometimes described as legalistic, mind controlling, religiously addictive, and authoritarian. Source: watchman.org
Trauma effects each and everyone of us, culture teaches us to solider on, which hinders us from being all that God (YHWH) created us to be. Many of us long to be on the other side of a deeply painful and traumatic experience, unfortunately life does not work that way. This is evident in many people's lives through the Bible. The saying "the only way out is through" is true when recovering from traumatic experiences in our lives. The reality of trauma is that sin committed against us or sins we have committed against others have consequences, those consequences can be difficult to navigate mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. However, through the healing power of Jesus (Yeshua) we do not have to live lives scarred by traumatic experiences, we can overcome, victoriously putting away our former shame. To accomplish this we must learn how to apply spiritual and practical solutions to heal.
Dealing with trauma includes sexual abuse, sexual violence, domestic violence, self-harm, post-abortion care, etc.
We are created for relationship, God is relational! We are created in God's image with the gift of free will, this is evident of a inter-dependent relationship, NOT a codependent relationship. In short, codependency is idolatry. Our culture has taught us an unbiblical definition of love which has set up unhealthy beliefs (strongholds) regarding what love is, how it feels, and what it looks like. While we come to learn God's definition of love, inter-dependency, and healthy boundaries we begin to develop healthy relational skills and inter-dependent relationships.
Based on Stephanie Tucker's book 'The Christian Co-dependence Recovery Workbook: From Surviving to Significance.' We will go through a truth-finding journey to reveal your system of love, life and relationships. Practically addressing the manifest behaviors, emotions and needs of the codependent, while simultaneously introducing the precious truths of God's love. We will learn the healing principles of the Jesus Christ in a fresh and profound way. When applied, you will have the opportunity to walk in freedom and grace, rather than bondage and control. This journey allows you to find freedom, purpose and identity in Christ
Grief & Loss
Times of grief and loss are some of the most unbearable of human experiences. Our culture, though well intended, lacks basic compassion and shared vulnerability for those discovering their "new normal." Moreover, when we have not been taught or modeled a theology of suffering we may suffer from secondary trauma as we question our faith in God (YHWH). No other time in our lives will be relate more to Job then in times of devastating grief and loss. I will come along side you, hold the grief, trauma, and pain for you, as you learn to live life again. Together, we will navigate the stages of grief (which are not linear): Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance, & Finding Meaning.